Don't Spend Side-ways Energy

I've been reflecting recently on the idea of expending "side-ways energy". Here's a definition first: an investment of time, resources, emotions, and/or spiritual focus on issues or situations that are not productive or expedient. They are typically situations or issues that are contestable but provide little or no effective ministry or relational growth or benefit. They simply create trouble, arguments, or require an unbalanced amount of personal investment compared with the return.

We will give our time, energy, and resources to something. May we see all of these as resources that God has entrusted to us, and now we are stewards of these things. I don't want to waste them in areas that will not produce the greatest, most effective results. How we spend our personal resources must be in line with our spiritual values and seem pleasing to God. However, I realize that we may not all agree on what is an issue that demands side-ways energy. (And debating that would probably require a certain amount of side-ways energy.)

The challenge is to be most intentional about the use of my life and energy so that it's being used on what matters most. Here are some areas that I'm beginning to avoid spending side-ways energy:

• denominational theological issues, i.e. doctrines that separate on church from another that are not part of what we consider to be part of the essential beliefs of the church.
• political banter. While I'm deeply passionate about my political views as well as an ardent patriot. I'm convinced that I can do more good leading people to Jesus and helping them in their journey with God than I can argue political views.
• petty conflict. There are certain things that I think we just have to get over. How cares if the toilet seat is up or down? (ok, that's not even an issue in our home, just an example).
• justifying mistakes. I used to spend time explaining why I did something wrong, even though I knew it was wrong, so that I wouldn't look bad. Then I realized, it's okay to just apologize and say, "I'm sorry" without trying to explain myself. It's so much easier too.
• micromanagement. This isn't one of my deep challenges, but every once and a while, my perfectionist juices kick in and I stick my nose into an area of life or church that is unnecessary. We have great people in leadership who I profoundly trust, and they should be given the freedom to lead, fail, and win big.
• TV/ internet/ games. Laura and I are disciplined about our family time and what we watch on TV. I stink at video games and hardly have time for the internet except for research and an occasional blog or facebook. However, this may be one of the all-time great America side-ways energy suckers. At the end of the show, game, viewing- what do you really have... nothing. This is opinion not gospel. But certainly worth chewing on.
  

I'm sure I could think of more examples, but you get the point.

What are some areas in your life that demand side-ways energy that can be eliminated or avoided? Where can your time and energy be better spent?